Thursday, May 1, 2008
i smiled at 12:38 AM.
Hmm.. I juz saw Princess' blog on her "test drive a few cars" entry.
Her client was advising her to test drive a few cars before knowing which one is the right car for her. Literally, telling her to have a few boyfriends first.
Well, i do understand where he is coming from but i do not like the idea.
You are the one who knows what kind of guy that would suit you best.
So well, when you settle into relationship and realise this car is not your type.
You may jump out once or twice and that is fine. But if you are looking for your ideal car all this while even when you own your car, then ask yourself this few questions?
1) Is it that the car really dont suit you?
2) Or you are too lousy to handle the car?
3) Or you think there is always something better out there?
If you are thinking that there is better cars out there, then i can only wish you good luck.
The fact is there are so many new models coming out every year, it is always greener at the other side of the mountain. When are you going to stop searching? It's a never ending road
And eventually, you will just settle down with an okay car coz you are just too tired to carry on.
Is it worthed the effort, the time? Maybe by then, your skill might be too old for a new car.
I never like the theory of test driving.
Once you think you have the one, then just make do with it.
The challenge is to
MAKE THE BEST out of an okay car.
If you can achieve that then, that is the
RIGHT car for you.
Having a relationship takes alot of effort and teamwork.
Apart of the initial lovey dovey moment.. things will eventually fade.
This is the fate in marriage but it doesnt mean that once love has faded = divorce!
Appreciation! To love his strength and to embrace his weakness. To appreciate what you have.
It takes 2 hands to clap. No one is perfect. To be together is a fate but to continue takes effort.
If one day, you realise you dont love your partner as much, what are you going to do?
Just let go? Why dont you try to lit up the passion or do something about it? It may sound difficult, but if you dont try, you would never know.
Sometimes, once you let go.. there is no turning back and as much as you dont want to..
you may just regret for the rest of your life.
Another issue is communication.
Apart from understanding each other, it is important to maintain good communication.
Once it breaks down, it may lead to more understandings.
Just like a car, if you dont repair it when necessary.. you are at risk of an accident, isnt it?
Relationship seems to be a very complicated thing but think again, it comes down to basic.
1)Good communication
2)Effort
3)Teamwork
4)Commitment
5)Love
6)Appreciation
7)Embrace
I believe in working things out and to make the best out of my partner.
If i could make him feel he is the best, he is the best for me and vice versa.
Ideal? hmm.. a couple should compliment each other and make each other beautiful, make each other shine, isnt it?
If you are successful, think again.. who makes u successful, who makes you great and appreciate by loving them more. And not to neglect them when you are high up! Or worse, go and find a new partner. The one that is with you during the bad time and/or your growing years is usually the one that has seen everything good and bad about you... they are the truthful ones that love you.
The new one would receive you after your makeover and they may just like the makeover version.
So, i never understand why lots of rich man would find someone new and divorce their wives. Silly silly.. As much as they think they are smart, they are the dumbest man on earth. They dont know what they are missing out. There is a Hokkien saying, " It's good to be smart but not acting smart!" In fact, a humble man is the wisest man! Isnt, it?
You know when you fall.. it is going to be your biggest nightmare! It is never nice to feel like you are the only one in the island. I hope you dont lose your everything in just one decision you make.
Love ah Love.. hmm...
