Monday, May 5, 2008
i smiled at 9:22 PM.
Truly worth reading and hopefully appreciating.
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is
broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to
suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may
result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.
She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated,
'PUB.' There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the
line, she heard a lady's voice, 'Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the
number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.'
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the
telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB'.
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NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful
marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?'
The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for
her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind
that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a
better husband than you.'
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid
of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look
around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of
a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a
person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable
one.' The SDU officer said, 'Your requirements, please.' 'Oh, good
looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and
dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure
hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need
companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.' The
officer listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need
television.'
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind
wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of
the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of
perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of
love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of
roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO OVERPOWERINGMany relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or
demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer
all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries
the meaning that 'It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a
person's character.'
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the
spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our
expectations..
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RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'A speech will
either prosper or ruin a nation.' Many relationships break off because
of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always
forget mutual respect and courtesy.. We may say anything without
considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A
worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, 'Hi, Emily! Remember me?
We used to date in the secondary school.' On the way home, her
millionaire husband teased her, 'Luckily you married me. Otherwise you
will be the wife of a construction worker.' She answered,'You should
appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire
and not you.'
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
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PERSONAL PERCEPTIONDifferent people have different perception. One man's meat could be
another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the
way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the
donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey.
He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The
husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while
the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let
the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can
the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.'
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then,
they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up
the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the
husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it
on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell
into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will
everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will
be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is
clear..
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BE PATIENTThis is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his
home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son
was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man
ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into
pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to
the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the
boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently
said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked, 'but when are
my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home and committed
suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you
wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with
someone you love. Trucks can be repaired..
Broken bones and hurt
feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference
between the person and the performance.
We forget that forgiveness is
greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions
we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
'Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One'
' Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the
moments that take our breath away '
